June Is The Time For A Shivaree

June is one of the most popular months for weddings. Appalachia has many interesting customs and sayings surrounding matrimony-one being a Shivaree. A Shivaree is a loud greeting given to newlyweds on their first night home. The Shivaree starts just after dark and includes loud banging, hollering, and serenading. Putting the couple in a wheel barrel and pushing them around is sometimes part of the fun as well. Over the years many of the traditions have fallen by the way.

Pap and Granny dated a short 3 months before they ran off and got married. Granny tells that she was all for getting married-but after it was over she was deathly afraid to go home and face her mother. When they told Gazzie she warned Pap to be good to her daughter or else. He followed through on his promise to treat her right all these 47 years.

The Deer Hunter and I dated for 4 years before we took the plunge. We tease about how if feels like we've been married 40 years-its actually been 14 years. Our wedding was small and inexpensive. My favorite detail of our marriage-we used his grandparent's rings (the first picture on this post is of them Bonnie and Curtis).

A few other Appalachian customs or sayings concerning weddings:

*If someone sweeps under your feet you'll never marry-I heard this one my whole life.

*The couple jumps the broom after the service to signify crossing over from single life to married life.

*In the past many marriages were conducted at the local Court House-hence the term going courtin. When I was a teenager someone was always asking me if I was "courtin" yet.

*This last one is for all you quilters. When young ladies gathered to put the finishing touches on a new quilt they would each hold a piece of the quilt and someone would throw a cat on the quilt- whoever the cat jumped off by-was the next girl headed for marriage.

Have you ever been to a Shivaree? Are there any wedding customs in your area?

Tipper

Comments

[Mary L. Grabski, Wisconsin]

I forgot to say that the money, collected in the shoe at a Polish wedding, is supposed to be used to pay for the first baby's crib. We never did get THAT money, but we had a huge baby shower with a Polish band and dance and everything, and we got tons of money and presents for the baby. The Polish traditions and foods are wonderful, but they're fading out.

[Mary L. Grabski, Wisconsin]

I remember going to "shivaree" at the wedding reception homes. We'd take old kettle covers and a big metal spoon and just clang away till someone came out. Most of the time they gave us money. My mother was Bohemian and my Dad, mostly German, so it came from one of those nationalities.

I married a 100% Polish guy and we had a traditional Polish wedding where they pass the bride's shoe around at the dance, and people put money in it. We were just leaving the wedding, so my new husband went back in to get my shoe full of money (first locked me in the car so I wouldn't get "stolen"), and came back out to tell me somebody had stolen the shoe with all the money in it. We never found the shoe or the money.

[Oklahoma Weddings]

It was the lovely traditions !
I really appreciate your blog !
Thanks for sharing ..

[brit]

I forgot what I was going to say after reading all those great comments....great picture of the rings

[Miss Cindy - Black Mountain, NC]

What a wonderful post. The rings are beautiful!!

[Jewelgirl]

Terrific story and interesting
back round info!
I've never heard of a Shivaree,
but it sounds a lot like fun!

[Jennifer in OR]

I love everyone's stories! We used to tie tin cans or soda cans to the bumper of the car the couple would drive away in. And sometimes fill the car with balloons or rice or something. And the pranks at the location of the couple's first night together - short sheeting the bed, etc.

The ancient traditions mentioned by Sarah were fascinating. Lovely post.

The first picture of the grandparents is precious. That little lady has the tiniest waist I've ever seen!

[Egghead]

I have never heard it called a shivaree but my dad, and both brothers wheeled their brides around the block in a wheelbarrow. Tradition is that someone goes into the newlyweds home and short sheets the bed, mixes up the sugar and salt (I don't know why) and just general pranks.

In all of our weddings (my sisters and I) our father after walking us down the isle would tell the priest that both my mother and he were giving the bride away and then he would give us a kiss and take a rose from our boquet and give it to our mother.

[Applie]

That is a sweet custom. I can't think of any unique here.

[Renna]

I think Oklahoma must share some of your Appalachian customs. I recall my mom telling me she and my dad had a shivaree when they were married (about 1952, I think).

I love the stories you share! :-)

[Pam/gafarmwoman]

I was one of those that went a courtin 33 years ago. I think we courted about 3 or 4 months, I graduated high school and we eloped to the court house across the state line to South Carolina.
Boy, was my family surprised!
I love the pictures you have up.
and I been meaning to tell you I added you to my blogroll, is that alright??
Have a good day.

[Em]

I've heard of a shivaree! We don't do them around here though... The first time I heard of one was the first time I saw the musical "Oklahoma!!!" It is one of my favorite movies... and I just introduced it to my daughter, who was intranced by it.

[Patti]

What great traditions. What lucky people you were to have antique rings. I carried my grandmother's blue handkerchief for something old and something blue.
Osagebluffquilter

[kari & kijsa]

Loved reading about these customs-always wonderful sayings and customs in the South!

blessings,
kari & kijsa

[Marci]

Tipper, I have been reading but not commenting because I don't want to be in the drawing. I have no wall space anywhere. In fact, I have tried to figure a way to invent some to hang up somethings of mine that are not on the wall. =)

Great post. My son is getting married in October, so wedding is on our mind. He is using my Mom's wedding and engagement rings. My parents received some beautiful etched glass goblets for their wedding. Michael and I used them at our wedding, and Joshua and Brittany used them at the betrothal dinner. I don't know if they will use them at the wedding or not.

[Fishing Guy]

Tipper: Very nice posts and I have enjoyed the trip through your sight. You have great stories and pictures. I like the sound of the old country sound. I've been into country music for many years.

Thanks for the visit with me and the comments.

[Razor Family Farms]

No wedding customs to report. Josh and I broke all the rules and saw a movie together the day of our wedding!

But--- I'm back! I posted!

Blessings!
Lacy

[momnitsua]

Heck yeah, I've heard of a shivaree! Even been to one (when I lived in North Carolina)!

Love the rings. By the way...Pap looks like a 'rocker' in the pic! Bet he was a pistol!

[The Texican]

I live in the lower Texas Rio Grande Valley. Our daughter's wedding included the exchange of coins, having the couple joined inside a lasso, and the presentation of a bible. All of the symbolic rites were performed by aunts and uncles of the bride and groom. Each rite symbolized the move from a single life to one shared with another. Jumping the broom is also used in this area.

[Teresa]

I hadn't heard of a Shivaree either! Maybe that's why we like to blow our carhorns at newlyweds right after the wedding. Even if you don't know them, if they have the car decorations, you blow!

I've always wondered about the sweeping thing. I bet it was a way of saying - if you were too lazy to get up and help work when someone else was sweeping then you were too lazy to make a good mate.

I've also heard that it was Roman tradition that a couple's marriage was consumated (not as it is today) but when they ate their first meal together as a couple...thus the tradition of eating cake together after the ceremony! I guess I'd better research that before stating it as true....

[Lisa]

Here's another quilting/wedding wives tale. I've always heard that an unmarried girl should not quilt a heart design or she'd never get married.

[Stacy A]

What an amazing story Carolyn. It would be so neat to find that picture. It is amazing all the different customs around weddings. Our wedding experience was very interesting because we come from such different backgrounds. I was raised in the Mormon West where courtships are very short and only small receptions are held. Doug is a New England boy through and through. It's funny but he was the one that always had ideas of how he wanted his wedding. Luckily for me, he and his mom helped me every step of the way, or I would have thrown in the towel and marched us right down to the courthouse. It turned out to be a perfect fall New England wedding. We just made sure there was plenty of fixings for Shirley Temples and even all of my Mormon side had a great time.

I also wear my grandmothers ring. My aunt gave it to me shortly before our wedding. My grandma had worn it so much the bands had worn too thin and were melded together. The family part of weddings is what is really important to me, and the ring made it very special.

I have never heard of a Shivaree, but it sounds like a blast, and may need to start implementing it into my family. Thanks for sharing Tipper. And...I got my angel!!! I love it, it is perfect. And the beautiful cards! I can't thank you enough. She will hang next me and bring me happiness for many days to come. Have a great week. Love Stacy

[Carolyn A.]

Tipper,

I think that's so sweet that you used his grandparents rings for your wedding.

I've been to one shivaree ... was a teenager at the time. It was awesome!

My Grandad, the Scottsman, and my Grandma, the Indian maid, were married in Harrisonburg, VA. He came to her house every weekend from Orange County, VA just to sit on her porch with her and her family. After about a year, he finally asked her if she would marry him when the preacher came through town. She said she didn't want to just be married, she wanted a church wedding. So, Grandad and his brothers built the church they were married in.

I've seen the picture once, of them outside the church and the Indian side of the family at the top of the steps in buckskins and Grandad's side of the family in their Sunday best. My Aunt who had it passed away and her boys say they can't find it. I keep bugging them about it though, cause I would really like a copy. xxoo

[renaedujour]

At my aunt's wedding they passed her mom's (my grandma's) shoe around for cash to be used for a honeymoon. I'm not sure if that's common or not, but it was the first (and only) time I've seen it done.

[noble pig]

What lovely traditions. I love old wives tales like sweepin under the feet...so interesting.